Getting a divorce is a life-changing event, and it can be difficult to imagine your life afterward. However, just like all things in life, this too shall pass. Read Charlotte Christian Law’s blog to learn how to plan for life after divorce.
You’re Not Alone
Before we talk about how to plan for life after divorce, it’s crucial to know that you don’t have to do it alone. If possible, you should look for a counselor, therapist, or trusted mentor to rely on during this time. These sessions can help you work through the grief of a major life change.
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Take Care of Yourself
Going through a divorce is a big deal, and it’s a great time to start doing what you want to do without having to worry about someone else’s wishes. Let’s talk about how you can take care of yourself after divorce.
Find Your Hobbies
Marriages often blend your separate interests and activities into one, but now you have the option to focus on your hobbies! If you have a hobby, now is a great time to get back into it and work on improving your skills.
If you didn’t have a hobby before marriage, now is your chance to find out what you’re passionate about. Join Facebook groups or pick up that skill that you’ve always thought was neat. Now’s the time to take care of yourself!
Divorce offers you the chance to start taking care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally. You have the opportunity to indulge yourself, whether that be with a day at the spa or a nice meal.
You’ve gone through a difficult time, so you deserve the chance to relax and take care of yourself at a deeper level. Read your favorite books, or find a new favorite! Now is your opportunity to invest in yourself.
Try New Things
After divorce, you have the opportunity to reinvent yourself. Eat new foods, try new hobbies, or start spending time with new people. This stage of your life gives you the chance to find out more about your likes and dislikes.
You’re entering into a new period of your life, and nothing is holding you back from experiencing all the different ways you can live your life. You finally have the time to focus on learning more about yourself!
Interacting with Your Ex-Spouse
In this section, we’ll work through how to interact with your ex-spouse when children are involved and when they’re not.
Discuss Parenting Styles
Be sure to have an honest discussion about how you should handle parenting your children now that you’re separated. You should discuss holiday time, routines, and how you’ll handle everyday situations like parent-teacher conferences.
If you and our ex-partner are having difficulty working together, it may be in your best interest to speak with a mediator or third party who can help referee. Remember – it’s important to sort these matters out for the good of your children.
If you don’t have children and aren’t ending your marriage on a good foot, it may be best to cut ties altogether. It won’t do you any good to keep in contact with someone if they aren’t bringing you any joy in your life.
You need time to adjust to this new life, and speaking with your ex might prevent you from growing and changing. It’s okay to go no-contact and avoid meeting up with your ex, and if they don’t respect your wishes, it’s okay to block them too.
Give it Time
There may be a time when you and your former spouse can spend time together again. However, you both will move at different paces, so give yourself the time you need to grow before bringing your ex back into the picture.
As previously mentioned, divorce is a life-changing event. Give yourself time to recover and heal, and don’t pressure yourself to move at a pace you’re uncomfortable with. You finally have the time to focus on your wants and needs.
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Speak with an Attorney
Planning for life after divorce can be difficult, and you may worry about whether or not you’re making the best decisions. Speaking to someone, whether a therapist, counselor, or attorney, can give you the security you need for your post-divorce life.
Getting a divorce can be daunting, but we’ll help you take the next step with clarity and confidence. Connect with us online at charlottechristianlaw.com or at (256) 859-7277. Move to a brighter future with clarity and confidence.