Custody arrangements can be very complicated. The old format of getting the kids one weekend every fortnight is not very functional and does not let you be a part of every part of your child’s life.
So, many parents are looking out for options that help out dividing time in a more evenly way: where they can get weekends and holidays but also schooldays, helping with homework, going to games, recitals, etc.
Setting up calendars between people who used to live together, but now have separate lives, can be a very daunting task. And setting them in motion can be even harder (although we can now be helped by technology).
So, let’s look at it in the most pragmatic approach. Here are 6 days to equally divide time with your custody, but be warned, some of these might look great on paper, but might not be easy to get used to:
Every other week
This is a very straight forward approach that allows each parent to spend equal time with their child or children, without being too much hassle, or feeling that you are apart for too much time.
Another approach that allows you to have a good amount of time with your children and that splits down the month in an even way.
Three days with one parent, four with the other, four back with the first parent and we start back at three and so on. This is a bit more complicated scheme, but one you can consider if you feel like a week or more apart from your children is too much.
Two days with each parent and then five with each one. This schedule will require discipline and effort from all the parties involved, but it will guarantee to see your children at least two times every week.
Two days with one parent, two with the other, and then 3 with each other. It’s an efficient way to get to see your child several times a week, every week.
Alternating every two days
This might be complicated, but it can work well for parents who live close by and find this scheme a lot more
According to custody exchange, these arrangements have several benefits:
50/50 schedules can benefit a child because the child spends substantial time living with both parents. This allows him or her to build a close relationship with both parents, and to feel cared for by both parents.
These work best when:
- The parents live fairly close to each other, so exchanges are easier.
- The parents are able to communicate with each other about the child without fighting.
- The child is able to handle switching between parents’ homes. This can be harder for younger children.
- Both parents are committed to putting the child’s best interest first.
- The parents agree that the 50/50 schedule is the best one for their child.