Everyone uses social media. Well, maybe not everyone, but according to Statista, “In the most recently measured period [2017-2018], 77 percent of U.S. Americans had a social media profile.” Social media is often used to stay in touch with long distance friends and relatives, share photos, find interesting information, and plenty of other very innocent things.
Unfortunately, using social media during a divorce can have disastrous effects on your case.
Even innocent posts can be used as evidence against you
You may have a high level of emotional intelligence. You may know better than to post your feelings of anger, frustration, bitterness, and outright disdain for your ex on social media during a divorce, but even the most innocent of photos or comments can be taken out of context and used as evidence against you. Did you go out for one drink after work with a coworker to unwind? A photo, status, or check-in by you, your coworker, or even a stranger could end up being brought to a judge as evidence that you drink too much, or even that you were having an affair. Nothing posted on social media during a divorce can ever truly be deleted, so it’s always better not to post at all.
Using social media during a divorce can end up causing more problems. Finding a caring, highly qualified legal professional to tell you the dos and don’ts during a divorce can make all the difference. Contact The Alabama Law Group today to schedule a consultation.
The two main areas that are most commonly targeted by divorce attorneys seeking to use social media during a divorce to discredit you are finances and child custody.
Whether you are seeking alimony and/or child support, or hoping not to pay one or both of those things, using social media during a divorce can paint a picture that you have more money than you claim and therefore hurt your case. Even if you had been saving up, or someone else paid the bill, looks can be deceiving and you don’t want to risk something being misconstrued. By the way, never post something that is contradictory to what you are claiming in court. Whether it’s job status, finances, free time, who you are spending time with, or even bad habits – if you say one thing in court and it turns up differently on social media, it could be damaging to your case.
Similar to your finances, your child custody case could be harmed by what you post on social media during a divorce. Judges have to determine what is in the best interest of the child emotionally and physically. Photos, posts and even just the amount of time spent on social media during a divorce could be used as evidence to deem you as an unfit parent.
It prevents you from getting actual support
If you spend more of your time on social media during a divorce than you do talking to friends and family in person, or on the phone, you are likely not receiving the emotional support you need to get through this challenging time. Rather than airing your feelings on social media, connect with people who love and support you in person as often as possible. Feelings of loneliness, sadness, isolation, and even depression can creep into your thoughts during a divorce and it’s important to keep those personal connections strong. Another option we highly recommend is talking with a counselor or therapist to process everything you are experiencing and feeling as your divorce progresses.
What if I have already posted something I shouldn’t have?
If you are already beginning the steps toward a divorce and you have already posted unfavorable things on social media, there are three important things to do:
- Do NOT delete anything. This can be seen as tampering with evidence.
- Do NOT post anything additional. Your best bet is to stop posting on social media during a divorce entirely.
- Hire an experienced family law attorney who specializes in divorce.
The Alabama Law Group serves the northern Alabama / Huntsville area. We specialize in alimony, child support and custody, military and high asset divorce. Don’t take your chances in court alone, hire The Alabama Law Group to fight for you.